Donna, Barbara, my mom, me, Donnette, and Brenda
About three months ago, I received an email asking if I could come speak at a church’s Christmas Luncheon on December 6th. At the time, everything was so uncertain with Nick’s health, so I told them “Yes,” with the understanding that I may have to back out at the last minute.
They were very understanding, and I was very thankful.
Well, time went by and as December 6th approached, I knew that Nick’s health was going to make the engagement a difficult one to keep.
Unfortunately, as you all know, Nick ended his battle with cancer on Saturday, November 29th, at around 10:50 in the morning.
Suddenly, time literally stopped for our family.
Each day since Nick’s entrance into Heaven, our family has struggled to find a new kind of normal here at our home.
One of the first big decisions I had to make was whether or not to keep my speaking engagement.
I decided that Nick would be very disappointed if I didn’t go, and I also felt it was a great way to be with mom when she reentered her friendship circle as the church was in the town just next to her home.
So, two friends of mine and I headed out on Saturday at 7:15 in the morning with my mom and drove straight to Ekron Baptist Church in Ekron, KY. The program began at 11. When we arrived, I was overwhelmed with the beauty of the decorations throughout the banquet room. Low-lighting, candles, and Christmas lights surrounded us as we walked through the door.
I have to admit that part of my heart was saying, “Why didn’t I just say I couldn’t make it?”
Each table was decorated beautifully by a different lady….
the creativity was unreal! We were so inspired to take this idea back to our home church.
We enjoyed a wonderful meal, listened to some great Christmas music, and then it was my turn to take the stage.
Honestly, I felt sick inside. But, I also felt determined to share hope with the nearly 150 women in the audience.
The topic they had asked me to speak on in September was, “There’s Always a Bright Side.”
Having lost Nick since agreeing to this topic, I had to do some deep soul-searching to share truth on this day.
Is there a bright side to losing a child? Does every cloud have a silver lining?
These are tough questions, but questions that scream for answers.
I shared from my heart, and I shared from God’s Word……………..that yes, there is a bright side to everything we face in this world. Finding the bright side often takes time….lots of time……….but in time it will come.
After I spoke, I was amazed at how many women came to me crying who had also lost a child or even more than one child in their lifetime. We hugged, talked, and just shared time together.
I walked away from this very special event knowing deep in my heart that although Nick’s life here on this planet may have been brought to an early end, Nick’s life story is only beginning. God is going to use Nick for years to come to bring comfort, hope, strength, and peace to hurting families.
While I am sad and broken-hearted in a physical sense, I am energized and excited in a spiritual sense.
When I can keep my focus on the eternal, I see so clearly that God has a plan and purpose for Nick’s life that I must carry out……and for Adrienne’s life.
The Nicholas Yancy Nischan Foundation is in the process of becoming incorporated. Under this foundation’s umbrella, seven ministries will be served as Nick was seven when he first became sick. One of these ministries will be outreach to grieving families who have lost a child. I will share more about the other ministries after our first board meeting in January.
Thank you for continuing to pray for our family. Please pray for this foundation as well.